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blu6385
<3 You know you love me <3
Member since 10/06 3392 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/13/2009 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by failurebydsign
i hate cry packs..its soooo silly
and donations too..thats another stupid thing..JMO..ill make my own donations..waht if you donate something in someones name and they are really against that charity..that would be akward..
like for me..im am totally 100% AGAINST PETA and if someone donated money in my name to them..id freak out and tell them to take it back or something
i can maybe see your point if someone donated to a charity that could be controversial (sp?) but how can anyone be against donating money to try to sure cancer or some other diease ... i plan on donating to St Judes and the American cancer society .. is someone really going to tell me thier against that ??
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Posted 5/4/07 3:58 PM 
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beachbum05
Mrs. Ihavetoomanylettersnow
Member since 8/06 9517 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/21/2008 5:30 PM
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Ok, sorry, I didn't mean to vomit my opinion all over this thread.
Moral: To each their own. Opinions should always been expressed. No one should ever attack anyone else for their opinions.
I apologize.
Enjoy your afternoon ladies. 
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Posted 5/4/07 3:58 PM
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blu6385
<3 You know you love me <3
Member since 10/06 3392 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/13/2009 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by beachbum05
Also, I don't feel that by giving a donation and letting people know it at your wedding you are somehow gloating, or showing that you're a "great person" by donating to a charity. If there is a connection to a certain charity I think it's beautiful for the couple to do so...
I don't think its any more or less better than giving a favor....but to say that it's "worse" is really not fair.
i cant agree more!!!! you sould feel proud that you donate to charity!!!
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Posted 5/4/07 3:59 PM
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AmorPeruano
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Member since 4/07 2590 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/9/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Honestly,
IMO, I think this is one of the best, down the earth, realistic, helpful threads I've seen on LIW...ever.
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Posted 5/6/07 1:18 PM
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melbalalala
Mrs. W-J!
Member since 2/06 3005 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/10/2007 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Wind Watch
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by AmorPeruano
Honestly,
IMO, I think this is one of the best, down the earth, realistic, helpful threads I've seen on LIW...ever.
Thank you so much!!
BTW, never thought Id spark a donation favor controversy!
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Posted 5/7/07 9:40 AM
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curiousgeorge
Yay! A home and a baby!
Member since 8/06 1597 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/3/2007 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Thatched Cottage AMAZING!!
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by Snowflake08
Posted by curiousgeorge
Okay I agree this is a great post...but I cant believe you didnt give a favor, or at least a donation.
i think a donation is worse than a favor
i donate to lots of charities all year round, that is nobody's business and does not belong as a public announcement at my wedding
JMO
[I will give an example: Right before my cousin got married, she gave birth to a gorgeous baby boy. Born premature at 5 and a half months. The neonatal ward at there hospital needed some upgrading, and that was the ward that saved his life. My family became close to the doc and nurses because there were there for a long period of time, and do to the fact that my cousin appreciated them so much and the neo ward she donated twice, once right after the baby was born and then the following year at her wedding thanking them for saving her sons life, and it was so emotional and there wasnt a dry eye in the house. It was just beautiful. Its her yearly thing that she donates to them..since the wedding can get quite expensive it can help to have it as a favor at your wedding also.
I dont feel there is anything wrong with announcing a donation to any charity. I attend charity evens every year in person. Charities are there to help. Any little bit helps and wedding favors can just be another good excuse for people to donate to their charities. If I announce it with a cute little scroll, theres no crime in that...it may actually inspire people if anyting to donate to that charity or others as well. I dont think its WORSE then anything, and I dont think that favors fall in a negative category either...some people work very hard on them, and some spend alot of time and effort picking them out.
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Posted 5/7/07 10:27 AM
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AMGBride2008
A ghra mo chroi/Love of my <3
Member since 6/06 7520 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/3/2008 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
CLM
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by Snowflake08
i think a donation is worse than a favor
i donate to lots of charities all year round, that is nobody's business and does not belong as a public announcement at my wedding
JMO
Laura, I'm sorry girlie, I'm gonna have to strongly disagree with you here (although you did say at "my wedding" and not "a wedding" kuddos to specifying what works for you  ).
I happen to think that giving a donation as a favor (which I hate to consider the donation that I plan on making for my wedding guests a "favor") is way more personal and says way more about the bride and groom as people and humanitarians than a picture frame or some candle (no offense people!!) could ever say or express.
You don't have to let your guests know how much you donated but I know that if I were a guest at a wedding I would appreciate the donation made in my name way more than anything tangible that the bride and groom could give me.
WITH that said... I don't think either (a favor or donation) is neccessary. People don't go to a wedding hoping and praying for a good favor, they come to celebrate and have a good time... that, IMO, is favor enough... ROCK ON PENNY PINCHERS!!!! WOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOO!
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Posted 5/7/07 11:05 AM
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melbalalala
Mrs. W-J!
Member since 2/06 3005 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/10/2007 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Wind Watch
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
shameless bump for any new cheap brides that have joined LIW in the past two months
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Posted 7/2/07 6:11 PM
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JeanetteandSteve
every day i love him even more
Member since 1/07 6338 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/25/2008 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
stonebridge country club
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
this post is awesome. i never saw it and i'm so glad you bumped this!! thanks for writing it, it's SO helpful!!!!!
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Posted 7/2/07 6:24 PM
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hayleyandsteve
Praying for my favorite Marine
Member since 7/06 6737 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/14/2007 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Crescent Beach Club
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
I definitely agree with previous posters about trying to keep up with everyone on LIW.
everyone has a different budget, so its silly to start comparing your own wedding with other people's weddings. some people have beautiful weddings for $10,000 and some have beautiful weddings for $100,000.
I absolutely LOVE LIW but I think it's easy to become caught up in what everyone else is doing.... and we lose sight of what's really important (i.e., marrying the love of your life!)
i think a lot of you know what happened with Steve recently... and it really put things into perspective. what matters more.... having all of your bridesmaids in the same shoes? or being able to marry your FH?
it's wonderful to add personal touches to your wedding, but they don't always have to be super expensive! (like my DIY menus that cost less than 3cents each!)
i have to admit that i'm not the thriftiest bride.... but i just chose what was important to me and spent money in those areas, and will add some personal but inexpensive touches too.
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Posted 7/3/07 10:13 AM
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MyLobster
Finally a Mrs!
Member since 2/07 3100 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/22/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by cbcf
The only thing I have to say about donations...is first of all no one should expect a gift...so if you are mad for walking out a of wedding without a gift and a piece of paper that says where the married couple donated ....then why bother going!!???
JMO
And also, the donation they make is for something that usually is very important to them and whose right is it to tell them or say behind their backs to someone at the wedding that I cant believe they donated to that fund. I am donating to the SIDS foundation because my brother passed away from it when he was younger. It means alot to my family and maybe one day with the money being funded they can find out what causes this to occur in babies and help prevent it and future losses- so YES I feel my donation is worth something!!!
And also, usually the couple does not donate something in your name...they just donate a certain amount of money and receive scrolls from that foundation to use at your wedding. They didnt specifically put your nameon a piece of paper and say it was from you!!
Sorry not trying to sound like a ***** but i think we need to stop critcizing what other people do cause it isnt our wedding and we do what we want at our wedding and they do what they want at theirs!!
THANK YOU FOR THIS THREAD THOUGH!! very helpful!!!!
Agreed!
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Posted 7/3/07 10:34 AM
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MyLobster
Finally a Mrs!
Member since 2/07 3100 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/22/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
So I think we need to continue the thread with ideas on saving wedding $$.
1. I booked photo/video seperately. I found it to be less expensive this way. Even if it was only by $300 these things add up.
2. I will receive my pics on DVD ONLY with no prints or albums. This is for those crafty girls. I plan to use Photoshop to make the "photojournalistic" shots. (i.e. black/white with one aspect in color etc.) I will also be making my album. I love to scrapbook and plan to make a scrapbook album. Ususally costs around $250 for all of the little chotchkies on the pages. Beats $1500! And it's more personal. Same with the parent albums. websites have amazing album layouts as well.
3. I am also using a local florist for flowers. I visited a few and they were so excited to do a wedding that they really showed they would put in 110%. Saving over 30% of the price quoted from the BIG name florists.
So far that's it...hopefully I'll be saving $$ elsewhere as the planning continues...I'll be sure to post for us budget brides!
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Posted 7/3/07 10:46 AM
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JTsGal829
Woo hoo.. proofs are ready!!!!
Member since 6/06 6530 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/7/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand A+++++
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Great Post!! THANKS! :)
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Posted 7/3/07 11:11 AM
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jsta76
Wedding + house what next?
Member since 4/07 3583 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/16/2008 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Thatched Cottage A
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Like many of you girls, I agree with a lot but not everything on this post.
The one thing I'm still trying to figure out how to save money on is for hair/makeup. A salon is NOT an option if you are getting married in the morning especially on a Sunday. Most of them don't open up until 10-11 which is when I need to be at the RH.
I'm still trying to figure out the best way to do it, since my mother has basically declared there is no way in hell I can do it myself.
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Posted 7/3/07 11:23 AM
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MyLobster
Finally a Mrs!
Member since 2/07 3100 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/22/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by jsta76
Like many of you girls, I agree with a lot but not everything on this post.
The one thing I'm still trying to figure out how to save money on is for hair/makeup. A salon is NOT an option if you are getting married in the morning especially on a Sunday. Most of them don't open up until 10-11 which is when I need to be at the RH.
I'm still trying to figure out the best way to do it, since my mother has basically declared there is no way in hell I can do it myself.
Yea..I'm going through the same thing...I have heard that girls at the MAC counter usually contract themselves out and the trial is free as long as you buy something (so really $50). Ithink that's how I'm going.
For hair...I think I'm going to get a trial by my salon girl and if it's good, ask her privately to come to my house. I don't know...I think hair/makeup is the hardest,
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Posted 7/3/07 1:14 PM
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melbalalala
Mrs. W-J!
Member since 2/06 3005 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/10/2007 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Wind Watch
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by jsta76
Like many of you girls, I agree with a lot but not everything on this post.
The one thing I'm still trying to figure out how to save money on is for hair/makeup. A salon is NOT an option if you are getting married in the morning especially on a Sunday. Most of them don't open up until 10-11 which is when I need to be at the RH.
I'm still trying to figure out the best way to do it, since my mother has basically declared there is no way in hell I can do it myself.
Alot of salons open up early, in the weeee hours of the morning for a bridal party. It might be slightly higher than their normal rates, but could be cheaper than having someone come to you?
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Posted 7/3/07 1:17 PM
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jsta76
Wedding + house what next?
Member since 4/07 3583 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/16/2008 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Thatched Cottage A
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Posted by melbalalala
Posted by jsta76
Like many of you girls, I agree with a lot but not everything on this post.
The one thing I'm still trying to figure out how to save money on is for hair/makeup. A salon is NOT an option if you are getting married in the morning especially on a Sunday. Most of them don't open up until 10-11 which is when I need to be at the RH.
I'm still trying to figure out the best way to do it, since my mother has basically declared there is no way in hell I can do it myself.
Alot of salons open up early, in the weeee hours of the morning for a bridal party. It might be slightly higher than their normal rates, but could be cheaper than having someone come to you?
I don't have 'a' person for my hair at all. I've had 1 haircut in the last year. I chopped it off in May and donated it. I got a free cut but the salon I went to is normally pretty expensive so I'd think the rates would be $$ for a wedding.
In the past for other weddings I was told no, they open when they open and won't do anything sooner.
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Posted 7/3/07 1:23 PM
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NinaChris07
Enjoying married life...
Member since 1/06 2673 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/28/2007 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked!
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
my advice would be to always negotiate or question the price that vendors or the RH gives you. Even if you are nervous about "negotiating" - you can hesitate and say thats a little high, I dont know... thats what I did many times (usually not even on purpose!) and the vendor would bring the cost down.
also, some vendors give a discount because of your RH or LIW, so drop those names....
if they can get full price from you, they will - so always try to get lower than that.
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Posted 7/3/07 2:29 PM
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TnOiOnL
fatti cazzi tuoi
Member since 4/06 6827 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/13/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Woodlands
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
I'll add to the list... Even though Im not married yet 
1- Menus
2- blank CDs on table for guests to burn
3- little tags to put on the almonds to explain the significance of them
All these 'little' projects that I can whip up in 30 seconds... A waste. They came out GORGEOUS but noone will friggin notice and it's all going in the garbage afterwards 
The things I do to myself... all it's given me is AGITA. Not a better wedding day 
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Posted 7/3/07 3:09 PM
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LuvMyAlfonse
Score.
Member since 7/06 10331 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/27/2008 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Land's End
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by MrsBartonToBe
I'll add to the list... Even though Im not married yet
1- Menus
2- blank CDs on table for guests to burn
3- little tags to put on the almonds to explain the significance of them
All these 'little' projects that I can whip up in 30 seconds... A waste. They came out GORGEOUS but noone will friggin notice and it's all going in the garbage afterwards
The things I do to myself... all it's given me is AGITA. Not a better wedding day
I am not doing menus - my hall provides them - two per table, I'm not doing table numbers - again my hall provides them - HOWEVER, I do want to do the blank CDs - you really think they're a waste?
Maybe I'll just do business cards with the whole "please email us" bit.
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Posted 7/3/07 3:13 PM
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MyLobster
Finally a Mrs!
Member since 2/07 3100 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/22/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
Posted by MrsBartonToBe
I'll add to the list... Even though Im not married yet
1- Menus
2- blank CDs on table for guests to burn
3- little tags to put on the almonds to explain the significance of them
All these 'little' projects that I can whip up in 30 seconds... A waste. They came out GORGEOUS but noone will friggin notice and it's all going in the garbage afterwards
The things I do to myself... all it's given me is AGITA. Not a better wedding day
I am not doing menus - my hall provides them - two per table, I'm not doing table numbers - again my hall provides them - HOWEVER, I do want to do the blank CDs - you really think they're a waste?
Maybe I'll just do business cards with the whole "please email us" bit.
I was thinking the same thing. I would also put something in the invite just so people who wouldn't noramlly bring cameras do. Don't know how I'll add that in though!
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Posted 7/3/07 3:17 PM
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jsta76
Wedding + house what next?
Member since 4/07 3583 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/16/2008 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Thatched Cottage A
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
I am not doing menus - my hall provides them - two per table, I'm not doing table numbers - again my hall provides them - HOWEVER, I do want to do the blank CDs - you really think they're a waste?
Maybe I'll just do business cards with the whole "please email us" bit.
Let us know what you decide. Ours provides the TN and menus also. I was thinking of doing the CD's as well.
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Posted 7/3/07 3:22 PM
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Mich0621
Forever my Love 11-18-07
Member since 5/07 4009 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/18/2007 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill Caterers
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
This is brilliant! Personally, I have no problem splurging on things i will USE (louis vuitton planner, Treo smartphone, bags for work, etc.), but I cannot see spending the equivalent of a down payment on a house for my wedding. Of course, I am not in anyway knocking people who spend a lot, because everyone's budget is different, and as long as you are happy, that is all that counts! FH and I already live together and have a lot of things we need, but from law school (me) and business school (FH), we have over 150K in student loans   In our situation, I don't think my loan company will understand that I can't make a payment because I had to upgrade to flowers specially flown in from tropical locales! So here is what we are doing:
1. Referrals are a great way with some vendors to score better prices. A few of my vendors were referred, and gave us a better deal. Doesn't always matter though. Also helps when you have a FFIL who is clergy and when you use the same vendor that FMIL used for the other 3 weddings and for upcoming bar mitzvahs, etc. We were also lucky in certain cases (like getting invitations at cost) because FH is a computer consultant and trades his services (fixing their internet) for their services (invitations!)
2. We are going to do our own Programs and Menus. I got my program paper at AC Moore, and instead of paying 500+ for the programs, we bought a color laser printer which FH needed for business (tax advantage!), and I got 250 sheets for 40 dollars!
3. My shoes were my only splurge...however, I plan on dying them to silver after the wedding, as I have no silver shoes. I made sure this could be done. My shoes are stark white and my dress is off white, but who sees them?!? And I don't need a dirty momento after the wedding!
BTW...I didn't want to do favors either...glad to hear a lot of people don't do them...I always throw them out!
Thanks so much, and hope this might help...and everytime I get pissy because I want something I can't have, I remember the bottom line is waking up next to the love of my life the next morning as his MRS!!!!
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Posted 7/3/07 4:49 PM
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Mich0621
Forever my Love 11-18-07
Member since 5/07 4009 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/18/2007 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill Caterers
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
Posted by jsta76
Like many of you girls, I agree with a lot but not everything on this post.
The one thing I'm still trying to figure out how to save money on is for hair/makeup. A salon is NOT an option if you are getting married in the morning especially on a Sunday. Most of them don't open up until 10-11 which is when I need to be at the RH.
I'm still trying to figure out the best way to do it, since my mother has basically declared there is no way in hell I can do it myself.
Do you have someone for either that you have used for years? That is what I am doing for my Sunday am wedding! Also, my girl lives closer to my parents than her salon!
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Posted 7/3/07 4:51 PM
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AmandaLynn04
Butt Slut
Member since 4/07 4036 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/17/2008 6:00 PM
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Re: Official "How to save money on your wedding" thread!
I never read this thread, it is absolutely hilarious!!!!!!! Such good ideas. And, I am glad that I am not the only one who hates cry packs.... what a waste!!!
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Posted 7/3/07 5:01 PM
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