Help me please Moms!!

Ok Moms. I'm reposting this from the Brides board because my mother seems to think that "adults" will have a different opinion and agree with her. Unfortunately my mother doesn't consider me an adult at 28, but here it is.

My parents are divorced....my mom remarried last year and my dad has a gf (who I'm not particularly fond of). 5 years ago when my mom was only dating my stepdad she walked out with my dad for the entrance at my sister's wedding because my sister felt very strongly that the parents should walk out together.
Now for my wedding, my mother absolutely refuses to walk out at the reception with anyone else but her husband. She claimed today that it would be disrespectful to him.
I really feel very strongly about this because I want my parents to be introduced together as my parents. I really don't think this is a big deal. And I really don't want my dad being introduced with his gf :(
She says she won't walk out at all unless she's with her current husband, so our only other option would be to not include parents for the reception entrance.
I actually attempted to speak with her again about this tonight and it unfortunately turned into a blowout. She absolutely refuses and would rather not be introduced at all!
Anyone think I'm wrong on this one. Please be very honest with me. This is very upsetting.

Re: Help me please Moms!!

First let me say I am sorry you are going through all this...I know it is upsetting. I have been in this situation now three times with my children. All of our children have had us enter the reception separately from the other parent and with our spouse/significant other. We were all introduced as the "mother of the bride" "father of the bride" etc. but we entered separately. The emphasis is on the fact that one IS YOUR PARENT. Thank God you have parents who are in your life and going to be there with you to celebrate.
It is a very awkward situation for all of us...parents and children and I know from having done this three times...it is tough on all.
I am sure my children all would love to have their original families back...who would blame them...but fact is this is what is and you have to deal with it. I understand that you may not like your dad's girlfriend....but the fact of the matter is she is just that...his girlfriend...emphasis is on dad not her.
I am writing this to you from the heart....I was the spouse that was left for another...that he later married...so it is not that I was "the other woman" . I just know that as long as we are all on the same page that we are doing this for our children out of love....we all have to respect our new places in life.
I know that I would have been very hurt if my husband walked into the reception with his ex wife and I am sure he would have felt the same about me.

I wish you the best...please don't fight with your parents over this....this is a special time for you and you should enjoy it. Maybe you can have both of your parents give you away or do a candle lighting ceremony together. Good luck to you.

xo

Re: Help me please Moms!!

Okay here goes. I have been divorced from my son's father since they were 6 and 2 years of age. Their father remarried in the 80's and I remarried in 1997. At both my son's weddings I walked in with my husband and were introduced as the mother of the groom Liz being escorted by her husband Gary. His father walked in right behind me and was introduced as the father of the groom escorting his wife....
It went very well and no one was insulted or left out or anything. Even though my ex and I don't talk we were civil with each other and did what we had to do for our sons.
Since your mother is married I personally feel she should be escorted in with her new husband and your father with gf. JMO!

P.S. I totally agree with Kathy above.

Message edited 8/28/2009 3:32:35 PM.

Re: Help me please Moms!!

Okay....two out of two! I really believe we are correct....and I agree that you do what you do for the sake of the children....whether you get along well or not.

Re: Help me please Moms!!

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Posted by Katiesmom

Okay....two out of two! I really believe we are correct....and I agree that you do what you do for the sake of the children....whether you get along well or not.

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Message edited 8/31/2009 11:50:38 AM.