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BarbieGrl10
Mrs. Ricky Bobby!
Member since 7/07 12271 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/1/2009 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Bridgeview Yacht Club - A++++++++++++++++
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Re: Holiday Wars...
Posted by MrsDrinkh20
Posted by Watever143
Posted by BarbieGrl10
Posted by MrsDrinkh20
Posted by BarbieGrl10
Ugh! I cant even answer this! We always fight about it.
So do we...its horrible...gives me severe anxiety!!!
Yes!!!!!!!!!
And what bothers me as well is that DHs family does the holidays much more low key then mine does.
We start at like 12 and its tons and tons of hors d'oeuvres and drinks till your full!
Then at like 2ish is the 1st course which is usually some form of macaroni and meatballs or lasagna.
Followed by salad.
At 4ish we will start the main course - either turkey or ham with like 20 different sides.
Then some drinking, movies and nap time.
By 8 all the cakes, chocolates, pies, etc are out but you can always go back and eat more from the other courses.
At DHs house they do like cheese and crackers then turkey or ham with some sides then cake. It takes like 3 hours. But DH is always stuck cooking it so hes always to tired to go to my family.
My family is like urs. We always have sooo many courses and soo much food. We never know when we start or finish. It is so hard to figure out what time we would go to his family bc all they do is put everything on the table at once. Then dessert.
Same here..my entire family gets together and with his family it is just his parents and 2 siblings...we could do that ANY day of the year...i feel like hlidays should be with EVERYONE
Exactly Lauren!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted 11/3/09 9:19 PM 
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springsandra
So happy to be my DH's wife!
Member since 4/09 3470 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/18/2009 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Cottage
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Re: Holiday Wars...
Wow I'm so sorry so many of you are going through this!!!!
Thanksgiving has never been that big a deal to either of us -- my family long ago lost the "big meal" tradition when my parents divorced when I was 13. When DH invited me to Thanksgiving with his family 3 weeks after we met to meet them, I knew he was serious about me, though.
We're doing thanksgiving at our home this year -- his parents gave DH a turkey roaster pan for christmas last year and he was told Thanksgiving was at his place this year, so we had no choice.  Good thing he proposed and we got married since then but before thanksgiving. (Although he's cooking the turkey, not me!)
Can you go every other year sharing the holiday instead of trying to split the day? Be there for important non-national events, like birthdays or other special occasions, and don't make Thanksgiving be the only day that matters.... I hope it works out with minimal frustration!
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Posted 11/3/09 9:33 PM
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msabla1
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Member since 5/07 679 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/4/2008 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Royalton Mansion
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Re: Holiday Wars...
I totally, totally understand the stress.
when we were dating, for Thanksgiving, he would always come to my family for dessert. Now, I go to his family b/c they eat at 12-1ish which leaves plenty of time left to go visit my side.
For Christmas Eve, he goes to my father's side which is the Italian side. Christmas Day dinner is with my family, the GREEK side. LOL
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Posted 11/4/09 8:32 AM
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twoifbysea
2nd honeymoon already!
Member since 11/08 3144 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Danfords A++++++
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Re: Holiday Wars...
Posted by MLAngelo
This has to get better when we all have our own families right?
FH and I have already decided -- the moment we get a big enough house, we will be hosting all holidays.
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Posted 11/4/09 8:42 AM
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KittyGags
Officially Kitty Gags!
Member since 9/08 2729 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2009 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Carltun
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Re: Holiday Wars...
Posted by twoifbysea
Posted by MLAngelo
This has to get better when we all have our own families right?
FH and I have already decided -- the moment we get a big enough house, we will be hosting all holidays.
Well thats what we were going to volunteer to do, but we didn't even get a chance to since the thanksgiving invite came on 10/1!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think trying to take the holidays over should be my next fun struggle.
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Posted 11/4/09 9:40 AM
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deeva007
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Member since 1/09 540 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/23/2009 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club
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Re: Holiday Wars...
Sorry to hear you are dealing with this. So far, knock wood, DH and I havent had this issue , however I have been through it with an ex.. and it ***** when one person does not budge and insists on spending every holiday with their family.
That being said, everyone has different ways of how to split up the holidays, but the point is to compromise. If you have decided one side gets xmas eve and one gets xmas day already that works out well.. as for thanksgiving and say easter, why not switch off so that one family gets one one yeart the next gets the other the following year. You could also split the day if say one family is more of a luinch family and the other is more of a dinner get together-er and they are nearby geographicall,... but sometimes you just end up missing out on both sides if you try to split the day itself- and your better off doing one year with his and one year with yours.
Anyway I think most importantly talk to hubby about what is important to you and how you feel about him maybe acting like his fam is more important than yours. and I am sure you will be able to figure something out =-) Good luck!
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Posted 11/4/09 6:15 PM
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deeva007
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Member since 1/09 540 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/23/2009 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club
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Re: Holiday Wars...
Posted by MLAngelo
This has to get better when we all have our own families right?
Or it just gets MORE complicated.. As siblings marry and start their own families too.. you are just adding more families to accomodate to th elist!
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Posted 11/4/09 6:18 PM
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